…even under the most favorable circumstances, China isn’t always transparent, and if you’re not careful, disagreements can still occur. Instead of overreacting or leaping to conclusions, the best policy is to take the time to listen and to understand. (p. 179)

Humility, empathy, equanimity.

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90 percent of the mistakes made in China are due to misunderstanding and miscommunication. (p. 177)

It’s a good idea to take figures like this “90 percent” with a grain of salt. At the same time, it’s worth some reflection: What if it’s true? What if we could reduce our mistakes by up to 90 percent by dedicating ourselves to minimizing misunderstanding and miscommunication? What leader wouldn’t want that return on investment?

Empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy, while also important, is still self-focused: “If I were in their shoes…” Empathy is deeper: getting yourself as thoroughly into the world of another person as you can, doing your best to experience the world as they do. To do this you have to quiet down your internal mental chatter and just listen. Open up your ears and your heart and let in what others are experiencing.

Sometimes people will come to you; other times you’ll notice something in other people’s behavior, and will seek them out. Either way, be ready to suspend judgment.

There are still those who think “soft skills” like empathy don’t belong in the “hard” world of business. As I discussed in an earlier post on the business of culture, though, what could be “harder” than time, money and goodwill for the success of a business — or of any organization? An environment where people feel heard and understood will unleash their energy and their creativity like nothing else. Problems will be solved faster, more will be accomplished, and people will feel empowered, with a new level of commitment to your organization’s success.

I’ve said it before and I’ll keep saying it: China will present you with day-to-day challenges like few other places will. Generating and sustaining empathy will be one of your greatest challenges as a culturally savvy leader — and one of your most rewarding.